Joanna starts her new semester

Joanna starts her school today. She gets up very early in the morning and is so exciting. She is 6th grade this semester.
Last Saturday, Joanna and I went to see tap dancing and enjoyed the Jazz music with the kids of Scout and their dads and moms in the City Hall, later we had a good time of bicycle riding, and visit Taipei Zoo in the evening.
Last Sunday evening, we enjoyed the fireside with Elder Earl C. Tingey and his wife as our speakers. A few days later, I received an e-mail from Johnathan, telling me that he'll finish internship in NASA and will be back to school the following week, the things about his family, his prayer for me and Joanna and so.

終於又恢復了平靜

真的是瞞不過她.不知道是律師的敏銳和細膩.還是50歲女人特有的練達...
或說陳姊妹就天生敏於觀察...沒說什麼..她還是發現
這樣亂遭遭的感情經過她一點 .就清楚了...
剛開始是一點曖昧..迷戀...互相吸引...不快停止的話
再過來會怎麼樣啊?
長痛不如短痛...
正義一點吧 君子愛人以徳
我得承認他真的很迷人. 很吸引人 . 很有魅力 . 也很細膩 . 很專業.
是個很棒的醫師...
剛開始的時候這個人讓我聯想到紅樓夢裡的賈寶玉
他對每個來到他身邊的女人都好 對每個都是真心的
他凝視妳的眼睛的時候 讓人很難抗拒 讓女人的感情很難不淪陷
滿面笑容讓人著迷 ...和妳說話的時候 讓妳忍不住也想跟他一起笑
從他清澈的眼眼睛 妳好像可以看見自己



可是跟這樣的男人有曖昧的感情...就會讓我離永恆婚姻和家庭夢想遠了
所停止吧... 停止不合適的迷戀
情慾和愛情是不一樣的

爐邊聚會後.又再次感到平靜
為他到禱告 願他的家庭和樂幸福
然後我想起半個地球外的J和他所教導我的事 和跟我說的話
突然覺得滿懷感恩
若這是蒙主悅納的 那我可以接受小我七歲 也可以接受種族和國籍的差異了
再一次我又感覺到平靜和溫暖
感謝神藉著你們牽著我的手往前走..

何師竹醫師的見證

聖經歌林多後書八章十二節：「人若有願做的心，必蒙悅納，乃是照他所有的，不是照他所無的」。
「自從造天地以來，神的永能和神性是明明可知的，雖是眼不能見，但藉著受造之物，就可以曉得，叫人無可推諉」。（羅馬書第一章20節）
以弗所書第五章1節：「所以你們該效法神，好像蒙慈愛的兒女一樣。」
全文連結:
http://www.dacombook.com.tw/book/cancer/writer.htm

何師竹醫師對婚姻的看法:
從生物學家的觀點，兩性的結合是為繁衍下一代。但我認為上帝造人很奇妙，充滿恩典。一對幸福的夫妻必須身、心、靈三方面都能完全契合。婚姻制度保護了彼此相屬的關係，不容外人介入。　　中國儒家孔子說：「食、色，性也」，實在沒有錯。上帝讓我們享有美味的食物、眼目觀看美景，耳聽各種美妙的聲音，也能享受性生活。但惟有在婚姻關係中、夫妻同心相屬、完全沒有第三者的介入，才能彼此毫無掛慮的、全心為對方付出與享有對方。在舊約聖經故事中，凡是有二個以上妻室的男子家中永遠沒有安寧融洽，甚至子女相爭為敵。中國傳統社會中，表面上家主駕馭了三妻四妾，事實上閨闈間暗潮洶湧，父母與子女的關係也被扭曲。因為人們違反造物主的命令與美意：「二人成為一體，從此不再是兩個人了」，因而喪失了上帝所賜的夫妻間共同承擔與分享人生的幸福。　　在現代社會中雖不再有三妻四妾，但事實上，兩性「性道德」的雙重標準便是這種封建遺毒的結果。如果人們不能體會婚姻關係的神聖，婚前墮胎、始亂終棄．．．諸事層出不窮。婚後亦不能忠於配偶，子女又如何能在溫馨祥和、充滿信任感與安全感的環境中長大？又如何能相信婚姻是神聖的？我最喜歡聽基督徒的婚禮中，牧師要求新郎、新娘彼此誓約：不管健康、疾病，富有、貧窮，平安、災禍，都要愛對方、保護對方，直到生命的末了．．．。我深信兩性的結合是神聖的，真正美滿的婚姻是二人終身同心相屬。　　女性主義者所宣揚的「情慾自主」，如果在夫妻之間，便是自發性的、心甘情願的、取悅與享有對方。如果不在婚姻的關係裡，且不論造成人倫關係的混亂、性病的蔓延（不僅是梅毒、淋病、尖狀溼疣及人人聞之色變的愛滋病等，連子宮頸癌也是性交感染導致的疾病），有「性」無「愛」的身體結合，卻無心靈的契合，可能圓滿無憾嗎？已婚或未婚者的「婚外情」一定會造成彼此的傷害，而真正的愛是不加害於對方的。「婚外情」的毀滅性力量不容輕忽。

媽媽的臉像太陽餅!?

昨天晚上跟Joanna聊天, 聊到真正的美麗, 女兒老實不客氣的說媽媽長得實在很不怎麼樣, 人家可以靠臉蛋吃飯, 媽媽得靠腦袋吃飯。
我說:"那妳怎麼辦?妳是我生的喔!"
Joanna趕緊撇清: "我長得是像我爸呀!"
做媽的立刻加以辯駁: "Pearce就說我長得美麗, 我也覺得自己不錯也."
這時候立刻加以機會教育一番, 告訴女兒真正的美麗包含外表、身體的層面的好看、靈性上的美，以及心智和情感層面的美，還有健康。
女兒似乎頗不以為然:＂婉玲這樣才算美麗, 身材和身高都好看，她的臉像漫畫人物.明明年紀和媽媽差不多...＂
接著補上一句:＂媽媽的臉像太陽餅一樣...圓圓的＂

媽媽心目中真正的美麗是可以經過時間考驗的, ...是像林媽利醫師那樣的女人: http://life.nyc.gov.tw/kaleidoscope/kaleidoscope.asp?catid=103&id=103&pd=3

安息日- 使徒行傳

我們有一個非常美好的安息日.季弟兄和蔡會長演講談到財務上的準備,重點在於謹慎而明智的使用主所賜給我們的資源.
我的主日學教到使徒行傳6~9章,
最重要的問題是(保羅問主耶穌的問題):
主啊!您要我怎麼做?
Lord, what wilt thou have me to do?
(這段在中文版聖經沒有翻譯出來)
每天都需要在禱告中求問主這個問題.
下午齡齡和Joanna去參加小朋友成長團體, 我和品心先去拜訪英語支會,
接著再去接她們.

哪個媽媽不抓狂

這兩天看完柯志恩寫的書「哪個媽媽不抓狂」, 很認同他說的: 「選擇孩子就是選擇混亂、煩雜、爭吵和真理，他們會用很多方法讓妳明白，妳很難做好母親這個角色，他們也讓妳理解，妳絕不是想像中的那種優雅、能幹、敏銳的高度進化的人類。」
http://www.books.com.tw/exep/prod/booksfile.php?item=0010349859
可是我們依然愛孩子!
Joanna去看她爸爸兩天.
昨Tina 來家裡玩, 有人可以說說話真好.
家裡的姐妹們夠多了, 和自己生日只差一天的Tina, 我們邏輯很像...
Tina的職業是財務長, 對她的單身生活怡然自得, 有許多社交活動,也很能享受獨處的樂趣,她會徹底拒絕自己不喜歡的對象. 我也會!
Tina重視自己的獨立和自由比較多.
然而32歲的我希望40歲的時候有一個親愛的丈夫 , 兩三個可愛的孩子.
再投合的人也有許多的不同點.

there is something greater than love

Thresholds of Love
In 1921 John Haslem Clark of Manti, Utah, wrote what became his last journal entry:
“The folks have been here today, but have gone to their homes. The clatter of racing feet, the laughter and babble of tongues have ceased. We are alone, We two. We two whom destiny has made one. Long ago, it has been sixty years since we met under the June trees. I kissed you first. How shy and afraid was your girlhood. Not any woman on earth or in heaven could be to me what you are. I would rather you were here, woman, with your gray hair, than any fresh blossom of youth. Where you are is home. Where you are not is homesickness. As I look at you I realize that there is something greater than love, although love is the greatest thing in earth. It is loyalty. For were I driven away in shame you would follow. If I were burning in fever your cool hand would soothe me. With your hand in mine may I pass and take my place among the saved of Heaven. Being eight years the eldest—and as the years went by and I felt that the time of parting might be near—it was often the drift of our thought and speech: how could either of us be left alone. Alone, after living together for 56 years. I scarcely dared think of it and though a bit selfish comforted myself thinking [that] according to our age I would not be the one left alone.”
Another handwriting then appears later on the same page. It is Therissa’s voice, gently closing John’s journal:
“Almost two years and a half since the last writing, and its following events are so sad, so heartbreaking for this, his life’s companion that this pen has been laid down many times ere this record is made. Loss and loneliness [are] ever present and will be with me to the end. … Will time soften this sadness, will I be able to leave the Old Home and not feel that he is waiting for me, calling me? I am only content at home where I feel that he is watching over me, his presence always with me.
“On March 11, 1923, John Haslem Clark passed away after an illness of only one week. He seemed so like himself, talking and active. We had no thought that the end was near until he passed into unconsciousness a few hours before his death. Oh, may we all be as clean and pure, ready to go before our Maker.”
We do not know the details of John and Therissa’s life as they crossed over the thresholds of their days. But we do know how 56 years of daily conversations finally shaped the kind of people they became, the kind of love they knew.
If our young couple could only know that this love is what they could feel and understand at the end of their lives, what wouldn’t they give! They’d listen more and choose better, over and over, day after day, crossing after crossing. They would learn, by patient experience, that “work is love made visible.”They would realize as the years pass that their marriage is helping them become better disciples of Jesus Christ, even becoming a little more like Him. Then they would understand as they cross the final threshold of mortality that the extent to which they have become one with Him is the extent to which they are one with each other.

Crossing Thresholds and Becoming Equal Partners
Ensign, Aug 2007, 24–29
by Bruce C. Hafen

週六和週日

I wrote a very short letter to Dr. Huang on Saturday morning. 稍後和Terri 去爬福州山和富陽生態公園, 接著去接Joanna回家, 週日第一次在英語支會的聖餐聚會做英文見證, Sister Dodge and Sister Walker told me that I did a good job. That made me feel good. Joanna went to the church with me this Sunday. That's another great thing for me . Sister Chen told me, "Be cheerful and joyful because God lives and Jesus is the Christ. God is with you. There's no need to be afraid. Set the right priorities, and look for methods to achieve your goal. Do not mess up because of the sort of trivials. I prefer to see the positive side of life." I promise that I will follow her advice. I got up very early and took a walk to the nearby park with Tina.
Then, it is another busy Monday.
使徒保羅說愛是清潔的心, 依照陳姐妹的說法是要順者著義,不要順著情慾.律師的正義感! 希望對身邊的人的愛, 對主的信心可以多一點.
Joanna昨天對自己做錯的是下註解:＂千金難買早知道＂, 看到她一點一點成長, 很安慰, 陪她聊天玩遊戲都可以讓她很開心, 11歲的小女生.
接著就要花時間翻譯王媽媽託付的文件..

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上去的方法....