分手

男女之間的交往關係,走到了一個地步,其中一方發現無法再繼續下去,有時僅經過幾次約會,便有所體認,有時是幾個月,有時是一年,有時甚至是好幾年,無論多久,只要體認的這段感情沒有未來或沒有前途可言,或是彼此難以滿足對方的需求了,此時分手是必經之途。


談戀愛總是難免會遇到要分手的狀況,與其歹戲拖棚,倒不如妥善的道別,因為沒有前景和共識的感情,投入越多時間和感情,到頭來只是浪費了彼此寶貴的時間。

就傷痛的程度而言,在約會或是戀愛階段的分手,固然傷心是難免的,畢竟是要離開自己真心喜歡的人,但是比起離婚那種彷彿死了一次的痛,在痛苦和復原的時間上,戀人階段的分手比較容易承受。

至於分手的方式,想分手的一方有的是避不見面,或者不接電話,用各式理由避免與對方再次相約或碰面，或是以簡訊或e-mail說清楚。

有一種給女生用的方法是書上看來的,對於約會幾次或幾個月的對象，發現對方並不是自己的真愛時的說詞:「你人很好,但我就是覺得不來電,也不認為我們兩人合得來。」,很誠懇又誠實的說,同時祝福對方,應該也能得到諒解吧!假如當著面或在電話中說不出口,就傳簡訊,用MSN或e-mail吧! 說出這話時自己內心很冷靜,但是聽到的男方或許仍有受傷和被拒絕的感覺吧!這卻是談戀愛中不可避免的過程,等到有一天找到今生的另一伴,會很慶幸當初自己對於不合適的對象慧劍斬情絲吧!

而男生提出的分手,有一首Chris Brown唱的Say Goodbye,我覺得很棒的描述了情侶分手的情境.

There is never a right time to say goodby.因為無論怎麼說總是有一方會傷心吧!



Chris Brown - Say Goodbye

Look we gotta talk
Dang I know
I know it's just
It's just...
Some things I gotta get of my chest alright....
Yeahhhh...
Whoa, whoa, whoa, oh, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, oh, whoa...
Listen..

Baby come here and sit down, let's talk
I got a lot to say so I guess I'll start by
Saying that I love you,
But you know, this thing ain't been
No walk in the park for us
I swear it'll only take a minute
You'll understand when I finish, yeah
And I don't wanna see you cry
But I don't wanna be the one to tell you a lie so

[Hook]
How do you let it go? When you,
You just don't know? What's on,
The other side of the door
When you're walking out, talk about it
Everything I tried to remember to say
Just went out my head
So I'ma do the best I can to get you to understand

[Chorus]
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But I gotta make the first move
'Cause if I don't you gonna start hating me
Cause I really don't feel the way I once felt about you
Girl it's not you, it's me
I kinda gotta figure out what I need (oh)
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But we know that we gotta go
Our separate ways
And I know it's hard but I gotta do it,
And it's killing me
Cause there's never a right time
Right time to say goodbye

Girl I know your heart is breaking
And a thousand times I
Found myself asking, "Why? Why?"
Why am I taking so long to say this?
But trust me, girl I never
Meant to crush your world
And I never
Thought I would see the day we grew apart
And I wanna know

[Hook]
How do you let it go? When you,
You just don't know? What's on,
The other side of the door
When you're walking out, talk about it
Girl I hope you understand
What I'm tryna say.
We just can't go on
Pretending that we get along
Girl how you not gonna see it?

[Chorus]
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But I gotta make the first move
'Cause if I don't you gonna start hating me
Cause I really don't feel the way I once felt about you
Girl it's not you it's me.
I kinda gotta figure out what I need (oh)
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But we know that we gotta go
Our separate ways
And I know it's hard but I gotta do it,
And it's killing me
Cause there's never a right time
Right time to say goodbye

Listen to your heart
Girl you know,
We should be apart, baby I
I just can't do it
I, I just can't do it
Listen to your heart
Girl you know,
We should be apart, baby I
I just can't do it
And sometimes it makes me wanna cry
Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh [4x]
Do you hear me crying?
Oh, oh, oh [4x]

[Chorus]
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But I gotta make the first move
'Cause if I don't you gonna start hating me
Cause I really don't feel the way I once felt about you
Girl it's not you it's me.
I kinda gotta figure out what I need (oh)
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But we know that we gotta go
Our separate ways
And I know it's hard but I gotta do it,
And it's killing me
Cause there's never a right time
Right time to say goodbye

[Chorus]
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But I gotta make the first move
'Cause if I don't you gonna start hating me
Cause I really don't feel the way I once felt about you
Girl it's not you it's me.
I kinda gotta figure out what I need (oh)
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But we know that we gotta go
Our separate ways
And I know it's hard but I gotta do it,
And it's killing me
Cause there's never a right time
Right time to say goodbye