今天在健身房的烤箱，聽到一個大約五十歲或六十歲左右的媽媽在抱怨自己的老公,
大概就是老工唸她吃黑楜椒牛肉乾, 吃完剩下又沒有冰冰箱的芝麻綠豆事
這位媽媽埋怨自己的的老公很大男人主義...
我就說...那妳有老公還算不錯啦!
我說基本上老公只要外面沒女人, 絕不打老婆, 又會養家,也沒有爛賭或酗酒之類的惡習,那就算很不錯啦!
其他的話,都是小事囉!
於是這個媽媽問我, 那妳還沒結婚嗎?
我說嗯....離了婚!
她問: 有小孩嗎?
我答: 有個12歲的女兒...
她問: 誰養?
我答: 自己養囉!
其實當時那種情形, 不離也沒辦法啊!...
只是單身已經邁入第四年,任何關於前次婚姻的細節,我都覺得不足道矣!
往事以已!!
倒是這位媽媽問起,我說慢慢找對象囉!
真的...我是非常非常認真的在找一個我可以用一生相許的另一伴,
雖然親友介紹,聯誼認識, 路上撿來的也有一些,可是就是現在還是一個人....
到底可以安心交往的Mr. Right在哪裡啊?
但是就慢慢的找吧! 反正自己養女兒也養了好多年啦!
然而此刻的我真的真的非常羨慕身邊有男人的女人,
那麼神啊!祢可以告訴孩子到底我的Mr. Right是誰呢???
找不到他, 就安慰自己說那所有的時間都是我自己的囉!!
女兒回去外公外婆家的周末夜特別寂寞吧!
不, 其實是每個夜晚都很寂寞....單身的生活...感覺自己過得很像修女
可是真的問我有男朋友的好處,我覺得就是有人陪吧!
那麼有老公的好處呢,我覺得是不用自己一個人睡覺...
應該還有更多的功能才對, 比方分享彼此的一切,還有為共同的目標奮鬥,照顧彼此家人,幫助彼此成長
一起做兩人喜歡的事之類的
最近小卡說,假如無法成為男友的人, 也不要留在身邊當"藍粉知己",
因為會讓我分心, 妨礙我找到真正的Mr. Right...
還有比這個更難更有挑戰性的事嗎?
遇到一個真心的,彼此願意交往,又合得來,同心協力願意一起經營幸福的婚姻和家庭生活的男人,
沒有男朋友和約會的日子....
所以現在主要是經營自己及和女兒的親子關係,
那麼假如有天我能確定的對自己說:"嗯...就是他了"的那天,但願我會是比較好的女朋友和老婆...
女兒說: "妳呢要不就拼愛情,要不就拼工作, 至於我會管好我自己,不用妳擔心..."
說出這話的女兒, 讓我這個媽媽不知如何回應呢!!
最近要準備研究所考試...有點定不下心...
散散的...看來我要更用功才好呢!
看了"林子萱坦承有12歲兒子"這則新聞,我也真的很希望未來的男友和他的家人朋友們一定要是接納我和我女兒的人才行喔!
2009年2月21日 星期六
2009年2月11日 星期三
分手
男女之間的交往關係,走到了一個地步,其中一方發現無法再繼續下去,有時僅經過幾次約會,便有所體認,有時是幾個月,有時是一年,有時甚至是好幾年,無論多久,只要體認的這段感情沒有未來或沒有前途可言,或是彼此難以滿足對方的需求了,此時分手是必經之途。
談戀愛總是難免會遇到要分手的狀況,與其歹戲拖棚,倒不如妥善的道別,因為沒有前景和共識的感情,投入越多時間和感情,到頭來只是浪費了彼此寶貴的時間。
就傷痛的程度而言,在約會或是戀愛階段的分手,固然傷心是難免的,畢竟是要離開自己真心喜歡的人,但是比起離婚那種彷彿死了一次的痛,在痛苦和復原的時間上,戀人階段的分手比較容易承受。
至於分手的方式,想分手的一方有的是避不見面,或者不接電話,用各式理由避免與對方再次相約或碰面，或是以簡訊或e-mail說清楚。
有一種給女生用的方法是書上看來的,對於約會幾次或幾個月的對象，發現對方並不是自己的真愛時的說詞:「你人很好,但我就是覺得不來電,也不認為我們兩人合得來。」,很誠懇又誠實的說,同時祝福對方,應該也能得到諒解吧!假如當著面或在電話中說不出口,就傳簡訊,用MSN或e-mail吧! 說出這話時自己內心很冷靜,但是聽到的男方或許仍有受傷和被拒絕的感覺吧!這卻是談戀愛中不可避免的過程,等到有一天找到今生的另一伴,會很慶幸當初自己對於不合適的對象慧劍斬情絲吧!
而男生提出的分手,有一首Chris Brown唱的Say Goodbye,我覺得很棒的描述了情侶分手的情境.
There is never a right time to say goodby.因為無論怎麼說總是有一方會傷心吧!
Chris Brown - Say Goodbye
Look we gotta talk
Dang I know
I know it's just
It's just...
Some things I gotta get of my chest alright....
Yeahhhh...
Whoa, whoa, whoa, oh, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, oh, whoa...
Listen..
Baby come here and sit down, let's talk
I got a lot to say so I guess I'll start by
Saying that I love you,
But you know, this thing ain't been
No walk in the park for us
I swear it'll only take a minute
You'll understand when I finish, yeah
And I don't wanna see you cry
But I don't wanna be the one to tell you a lie so
[Hook]
How do you let it go? When you,
You just don't know? What's on,
The other side of the door
When you're walking out, talk about it
Everything I tried to remember to say
Just went out my head
So I'ma do the best I can to get you to understand
[Chorus]
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But I gotta make the first move
'Cause if I don't you gonna start hating me
Cause I really don't feel the way I once felt about you
Girl it's not you, it's me
I kinda gotta figure out what I need (oh)
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But we know that we gotta go
Our separate ways
And I know it's hard but I gotta do it,
And it's killing me
Cause there's never a right time
Right time to say goodbye
Girl I know your heart is breaking
And a thousand times I
Found myself asking, "Why? Why?"
Why am I taking so long to say this?
But trust me, girl I never
Meant to crush your world
And I never
Thought I would see the day we grew apart
And I wanna know
[Hook]
How do you let it go? When you,
You just don't know? What's on,
The other side of the door
When you're walking out, talk about it
Girl I hope you understand
What I'm tryna say.
We just can't go on
Pretending that we get along
Girl how you not gonna see it?
[Chorus]
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But I gotta make the first move
'Cause if I don't you gonna start hating me
Cause I really don't feel the way I once felt about you
Girl it's not you it's me.
I kinda gotta figure out what I need (oh)
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But we know that we gotta go
Our separate ways
And I know it's hard but I gotta do it,
And it's killing me
Cause there's never a right time
Right time to say goodbye
Listen to your heart
Girl you know,
We should be apart, baby I
I just can't do it
I, I just can't do it
Listen to your heart
Girl you know,
We should be apart, baby I
I just can't do it
And sometimes it makes me wanna cry
Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh [4x]
Do you hear me crying?
Oh, oh, oh [4x]
[Chorus]
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But I gotta make the first move
'Cause if I don't you gonna start hating me
Cause I really don't feel the way I once felt about you
Girl it's not you it's me.
I kinda gotta figure out what I need (oh)
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But we know that we gotta go
Our separate ways
And I know it's hard but I gotta do it,
And it's killing me
Cause there's never a right time
Right time to say goodbye
[Chorus]
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But I gotta make the first move
'Cause if I don't you gonna start hating me
Cause I really don't feel the way I once felt about you
Girl it's not you it's me.
I kinda gotta figure out what I need (oh)
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But we know that we gotta go
Our separate ways
And I know it's hard but I gotta do it,
And it's killing me
Cause there's never a right time
Right time to say goodbye
談戀愛總是難免會遇到要分手的狀況,與其歹戲拖棚,倒不如妥善的道別,因為沒有前景和共識的感情,投入越多時間和感情,到頭來只是浪費了彼此寶貴的時間。
就傷痛的程度而言,在約會或是戀愛階段的分手,固然傷心是難免的,畢竟是要離開自己真心喜歡的人,但是比起離婚那種彷彿死了一次的痛,在痛苦和復原的時間上,戀人階段的分手比較容易承受。
至於分手的方式,想分手的一方有的是避不見面,或者不接電話,用各式理由避免與對方再次相約或碰面，或是以簡訊或e-mail說清楚。
有一種給女生用的方法是書上看來的,對於約會幾次或幾個月的對象，發現對方並不是自己的真愛時的說詞:「你人很好,但我就是覺得不來電,也不認為我們兩人合得來。」,很誠懇又誠實的說,同時祝福對方,應該也能得到諒解吧!假如當著面或在電話中說不出口,就傳簡訊,用MSN或e-mail吧! 說出這話時自己內心很冷靜,但是聽到的男方或許仍有受傷和被拒絕的感覺吧!這卻是談戀愛中不可避免的過程,等到有一天找到今生的另一伴,會很慶幸當初自己對於不合適的對象慧劍斬情絲吧!
而男生提出的分手,有一首Chris Brown唱的Say Goodbye,我覺得很棒的描述了情侶分手的情境.
There is never a right time to say goodby.因為無論怎麼說總是有一方會傷心吧!
Chris Brown - Say Goodbye
Look we gotta talk
Dang I know
I know it's just
It's just...
Some things I gotta get of my chest alright....
Yeahhhh...
Whoa, whoa, whoa, oh, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, oh, whoa...
Listen..
Baby come here and sit down, let's talk
I got a lot to say so I guess I'll start by
Saying that I love you,
But you know, this thing ain't been
No walk in the park for us
I swear it'll only take a minute
You'll understand when I finish, yeah
And I don't wanna see you cry
But I don't wanna be the one to tell you a lie so
[Hook]
How do you let it go? When you,
You just don't know? What's on,
The other side of the door
When you're walking out, talk about it
Everything I tried to remember to say
Just went out my head
So I'ma do the best I can to get you to understand
[Chorus]
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But I gotta make the first move
'Cause if I don't you gonna start hating me
Cause I really don't feel the way I once felt about you
Girl it's not you, it's me
I kinda gotta figure out what I need (oh)
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But we know that we gotta go
Our separate ways
And I know it's hard but I gotta do it,
And it's killing me
Cause there's never a right time
Right time to say goodbye
Girl I know your heart is breaking
And a thousand times I
Found myself asking, "Why? Why?"
Why am I taking so long to say this?
But trust me, girl I never
Meant to crush your world
And I never
Thought I would see the day we grew apart
And I wanna know
[Hook]
How do you let it go? When you,
You just don't know? What's on,
The other side of the door
When you're walking out, talk about it
Girl I hope you understand
What I'm tryna say.
We just can't go on
Pretending that we get along
Girl how you not gonna see it?
[Chorus]
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But I gotta make the first move
'Cause if I don't you gonna start hating me
Cause I really don't feel the way I once felt about you
Girl it's not you it's me.
I kinda gotta figure out what I need (oh)
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But we know that we gotta go
Our separate ways
And I know it's hard but I gotta do it,
And it's killing me
Cause there's never a right time
Right time to say goodbye
Listen to your heart
Girl you know,
We should be apart, baby I
I just can't do it
I, I just can't do it
Listen to your heart
Girl you know,
We should be apart, baby I
I just can't do it
And sometimes it makes me wanna cry
Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh [4x]
Do you hear me crying?
Oh, oh, oh [4x]
[Chorus]
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But I gotta make the first move
'Cause if I don't you gonna start hating me
Cause I really don't feel the way I once felt about you
Girl it's not you it's me.
I kinda gotta figure out what I need (oh)
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But we know that we gotta go
Our separate ways
And I know it's hard but I gotta do it,
And it's killing me
Cause there's never a right time
Right time to say goodbye
[Chorus]
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But I gotta make the first move
'Cause if I don't you gonna start hating me
Cause I really don't feel the way I once felt about you
Girl it's not you it's me.
I kinda gotta figure out what I need (oh)
There's never a right time to say goodbye
But we know that we gotta go
Our separate ways
And I know it's hard but I gotta do it,
And it's killing me
Cause there's never a right time
Right time to say goodbye
2009年2月3日 星期二
1/23 庫克山上的阿卡聚餐照片
1/23 和TIC同事朋友在師大附近庫克山上的阿卡聚餐照片出爐了
照片是Sally 用數位相機Joe用新買的iPhone拍的
這個聚餐我好像去年十月份說要主辦,11月開始連絡,到今年春節年假前才成行呢
在Jenny推薦的兩家餐廳中,我們投票選了這家
米倉 http://www.mezone.idv.tw/
庫克山上的阿卡 http://www.wretch.cc/blog/cuisinemap/5975855
不過小卡,小安, Lydia, Daphne其實投的是南大門韓式料理(烤肉),我和Jessie原來想去川巴子
最後這兩家只好下次機會再去了
看大家的連絡真是洋洋灑灑啊
Joe: 一上班一開信箱就看到一大串關於帥哥的討論
真是的....
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Sally:
不會啦~Jessie你想太多啦
根本一點也不黑不圓
那是光影+位置角度的關係, 因為閃光燈剛好集中在你那個區域..................
Joe是新髮型嗎? 那是因為太長沒剪吧.......
而且扮起女生來應該也不賴, 皮膚白皙耶.....呵呵
下次若有人要花生醬的話, 記得跟我說喔!
降我就可以帶給大家!
Tammy:
謝謝Sally 囉!
其實沒有竹塹餅這麼圓啦!
Joe 少爺的新髮型照相起來真不錯看...
只有三個人帶眼鏡....那不然改天也戴隱形眼鏡好了
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Jessie:
為什麼我臉這麼黑又這麼大又這麼圓?!
Sally:
Dear all:
TIC合照來囉~
同時祝大家新年快樂&牛年行大運唷! :D
(P.S. 不知道我那天帶給大家的伴手禮-花生醬 &竹塹餅好吃嗎? 喜歡吃的話, 下次我再買給大家喔~)
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Joe:
Dear All
FYI.
_______________________
Tammy :
Dear 美女 & 帥哥們:
我們今天晚上要去庫克山上的阿卡聚餐喔。
從威盛過去的我晚點再和您們討論一起去的交通方式 , 因為我還在弄SoC的Design Guide
Sally會搭高鐵自己到店, Joe 少爺麻煩您也自己到店吧!!
Jenny 和Jessie自己去也OK吧!
到了就說威盛電子TIC Ms. Lo訂的10人包廂就行.
交通方式: 搭捷運台電大樓站下車, 往師大路夜市方向走, 第二個屈臣氏右轉(口訣:右左右), 萬一找不到可以call 店家到屈臣氏帶我們!!
TIC dinner gathering on Jan. 23, 2009.
Start at: 7:00~ 7:30 p.m.
End at: 9:00~9:30 p.m.
Restaurant: 庫克山上的阿卡
庫克山上的阿卡
泰順街26巷43號1F
電話：(02) 2363-3285
營業時間：平常11 am- 2:30 pm，5-9:30 pm／假日 11 am- 9:30 pm(假日不午休)
http://www.wretch.cc/blog/cuisinemap/5975855
http://tw.lifestyle.yahoo.com/biz.html?bizid=68b6e6a51b7a23b0
http://blog.xuite.net/christabelle/foodnotes/3606680
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